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Casey O'Brien's avatar

🔥🔥🔥...this was written for me to read, Mark. Thank you so much‼️

I am in long term Recovery and whenever I try to complain to my sponsor about my ambivalent partner, he reminds me, " You are not a victim. You volunteered for this."

Wow! Truer words were never spoken.

Only I have the power to change my path moving forward. 🙏

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MelloJ's avatar

Sadly, it's better to move on than waste your precious energy trying to retrofit something into a relationship. Three years of "iffy" is enough. Your body and soul have known this far longer than your scaredy-cat brain. Brains take, at bare minimum, 30 days to change small habits and this is huge. Let go and take back your energy. I tried going back & all this person could muster was about a month of mild effort to meet me halfway. There's a whole, grown-up adult person waiting for you out there in the world! Work on being the best version of adult you & you'll attract the right person. That's what I did & was so much better off just being with myself and not worrying about being disappointed by someone. They don't care enough & you've outgrown waiting on them. Onward and upward!

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Mark Groves's avatar

Amen!!

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Maria's avatar

I love this ❤️ that has been my experience, the moment I said no and I meant it everything changed for me and eventually I met someone with whom I can be in a relationship. I totally agree it was me who was also fearful of really being in a relationship so I was tolerating situations where I was not fully chosen and my needs were not met. I had to learn to choose myself ❤️

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Keil Mello's avatar

I’ve starred in this movie for sure! 😆⭐️🎬

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Vince Roman's avatar

Happy Saturday

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Angela Bucher's avatar

So freaking on point!!!

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Emilia Grycuk's avatar

💯 it’s interesting how the push-and-pull dynamic also resembles the immediate ‘commitment’ dynamic. Either way, as you said, there is an invitation, you can take it or not.

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