The Secret Cost of Toxic Relationship Dynamics

& Why Your Anxiety Is Actually Wisdom

You can’t maintain good mental health and be in a relationship with a toxic person.

You have to become toxic to participate in toxicity.

And the form of toxicity you have to adopt is one where you continue to put yourself in the space of continuously being wounded — as well as what the toxic relationship does to your body.

You have to give away your power and tell the story to yourself that you “don’t have a ‘choice’.”

In giving away your ability to choose, you’ll become anxious.

If that doesn’t wake you up, you’ll become depressed.

And then you’ll wonder what’s wrong with you that you’re anxious and depressed.

And I’m here to tell you that there’s nothing wrong with you. Those are perfectly normal responses to a toxic environment.

The way out is to ask your anxiety and depression what it’s telling you to change in your life… knowing that those emotions are brilliant in response to your life, what do you need to do to honour their brilliance?

You’re not a powerless little kid. You’re an adult. You’re a powerhouse. You’re a light.

The fact that you have to pretend you’re not powerful to be in a relationship with someone who exploits power should tell you all you need to know about the relationship dynamic.

Fuck that. And fuck tolerating BS in your life that makes you feel broken.

The love you have in your life and the relationships you participate in should remind you that you are a sacred being.

If you have to abandon your sacredness, it’s not for you.

If you have to pretend you’re a small, weak child, it’s not for you.

If you have to give away your joy and well-being, it’s not for you.

If you have to play small, it’s not for you.

If they can’t choose you and meet you in reciprocity, it’s not for you.

If choosing them requires you to believe you’re broken, it’s not for you.

BREATHE THAT IN.

Accept the truths that are knocking on your door BEGGING you to listen.

You’re far wiser than you let yourself be.

So wake the fuck up Yoda. You have a life to live, love to share, and a mission to step into.

And ain’t nobody gonna save you.

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