The Power of Being Disliked

Are you willing to be the villain in someone else's story?

My wife recently said to me, “One of the most potent vehicles for transformation, is the willingness to be the villain in someone else’s story.”

Damn. She hit me with the realness.

If you want to live a fulfilling life and have incredible relationships, you have to be willing to live with the tension that comes with being all of you. You have to be willing to be different, have different interests, different opinions, different ideas, and of course, different feelings about all the different things. You have to be willing to be YOU.

Great leaders know this… they’re willing to lead and speak in the direction they know is necessary, even if it’s unpopular. They know that the pushback they receive doesn’t mean it’s the wrong path, it’s just a natural response that humans have to change, moving towards the unknown, and beliefs and ideas being challenged.

But let’s be honest… we all know this to be true.

And the real question is: Can we live it?

Are you willing to be the perceived Villain?

FUCK YES. (Might be a little optimistic at this point, but stick with me.)

To have a brilliant life and brilliant love, you have to be willing to put it all on the line, and if that upsets people, it upsets people.

Maybe this is why we have so much admiration for those who seemingly give zero-fucks… I certainly don’t aspire to zerrrooooooo fucks, but to give the right fucks about the right things feels like a good thing to aspire to.

The first thing you should know about me is that I am not you. A lot more will make sense after that.

But why do we fear being the villain? Why are we willing to abandon ourselves and our feelings for others?

Well, it comes down to the fundamental nature of humans… All humans have two needs: