The 3 Purposes Of Relationship

Bless the thing that broke you down and cracked you open, because the world needs you open. ~ Rebecca Campbell

Heartbreak and relationships offer a superhighway to source... to God... whatever your word is for feeling "connected". They are the quickest path to “self-actualization.”

Not a shortcut… because there’s no such thing.

Heartbreak is love. And often it’s the catalyst to stepping into our power and putting an end to painful patterns.

All of our bullshit washes away in painful moments, and in some cases, gets blown the eff up. There's no room for pretending when we're hurting. We're done being "okay" and towing the same bullshit line we may have towed for our whole lives. We finally get to be ourselves... to meet ourselves... and our heart says, "Welcome back... I've been missing you."

Welcome home.

This, to me, is the first purpose of relationships... to invite us to meet our masks. To wake us up to our patterns and how we handle emotions... because at our core is love. All we have to do is look at a baby to know that we are not inherently mean, or angry, or hurtful. We are loving beings by default.

All of the things that get in the way of love? Those are learned. We learn these survival strategies to protect ourselves... to sometimes prevent “love” and relationships from progressing, because maybe the people who were supposed to love us most... didn't. Maybe love was associated with pain? What a challenging thing to navigate… that our place of safety was also our place of suffering. Insert, freeze state.

But as Rumi said:

Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it. ~ Rumi

The second purpose of relationships is to learn how to always respond in kindness and love. That doesn't mean not having boundaries or communication when we're hurting... it actually means having boundaries and communication. More of it! Even feedback to our partner can be done in a loving way... and if they (we) get defensive... choosing love in response. There can never be war with only one person.

The third purpose of relationship is to invite you to be your highest self (choosing love). To grow and become the best possible version of ourselves… to live in “Christ consciousness.” Ultimately, through our partners we find God/Universe/Divinity/Unity… etc.

Relationships are here to crack you open. Not only does the world need you open, but you do. You need yourself to be open. Because you're on this planet to feel and to love. You're here to connect, and it's up to you to master that.

We have to show up how we want the world to show up. No excuses.