Make this comeback personal.

It's an apology to yourself

I shared this meme on notes earlier this week and it seemed to have really struck a chord, so I thought I would expand on it in a post… because I see how sacred the tension is between regret and resentment, and anger being a prison, versus being the very catalyst to our own evolution.

Here’s what I said in the note:

I can’t help but see the real beauty in channelling regret into complete transformation. Or taking anger or resentment and alchemizing it into liberation. Or taking the desire for revenge, and using it to move beyond the threshold where you normally quit.

There’s really nothing worse than being trapped in the emotions from our past. But the trick to moving on isn’t so much letting go… as it is holding on tight and using that emotion to change your fucking life.

Once you use emotions to transform, there’s nothing left to grasp. Because you’re too busy marinating in gratitude for what you created from what most people wouldn’t.

Do it because of them. But do it for you.

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The deeper reason this quote resonated so much is that I think about my own come up… how when we make our evolution and our goals personal, and channel the energy of revolution and revenge, we push past the places we normally quit.

There’s a thought that negative emotion is toxic to our own beings… but that is only true when we marinate in the emotions. Emotion is meant to evoke motion.

We are meant to transmute it into change.

When we stay stuck and suspended in our suffering… that takes a toll on the body and the mind.

Think about it: it’s the rock bottom that often heals the addict.

It’s getting to a place where we can’t tolerate any more that finally makes us say “ENOUGH.”

There’s a saying that we change for two reasons:

1. It hurts so much we have to.

2. We know too much, and thus have to change. (because the pain of awareness is too great.)

I say all of this because everybody is capable of finding an angry cell in their body that is yearning to be channeled into something constructive rather than destructive.

Everybody can feel into something they’re tired of… or circumstances they’ve been tolerating… either from others, or themselves.

Living below our standards creates suffering, and that pain of knowing we can be better and not choosing it, is exactly what motivates us to choose it.

So get pissed off at what you’ve tolerated.

Get angry at what’s happened in your life.

Get sad that someone not only treated you as invaluable, but that you also tolerated it.

And then close your eyes… feel that fire in your belly, your heart and your throat, and let it stir up the power to do the thing you’ve been running from.

It’s time.

If you decide it is.

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