Forgive for you, not for them.

Choosing to let go when the apology never comes.

You will never go closer to the edge of unconditional love than the moment you decide to forgive someone who doesn’t ask to be forgiven and doesn’t make an effort to repair. This is a challenging equation for the mind/heart... because we have created the idea in our culture/society that unless someone is sorry, why the fuck should we care? We have been sent the message of “an eye for an eye”. We hear stories of lifelong grudges and pain held close to our hearts.

Strength is releasing the shackles we’ve placed on ourselves to prove to someone else how much they’ve hurt us. Do they lose sleep at night watching our struggle? Do they suffer from hearing of our suffering?

No. And when the answer is “no”, we want to hold on tighter. We want to fuck up our lives so much that they’ll finally see the price of their betrayal. We try to uplevel our suffering and really get their attention.

The math is odd here - but let’s break it down - We suffer to prove to people (who aren’t paying attention) how much suffering they have caused - which we choose to continue to prove our point. ⁣

It’s an endless cycle with no winners. Want to get the ultimate revenge? Love them. Forgive them. Not for them, but for you... so you don’t have to live in a story that doesn’t have to be true anymore.

Sometimes the greatest lesson we can learn from the moments in life that have caused us the most pain is that our self worth and our feelings are not dependent on another. That our story is ours to write - we’re not the actor in someone else’s. We don’t often get a choice is being hurt, but we do get a choice in what we do with our hurt.

This is your chance to choose forgiveness so you can choose life. (yours).

P.S. If you’re going through a breakup I’ve created a 5 day audio series and workbook to give yourself the space to fully process, release old patterns, and step into the love life you truly deserve. This isn’t just about moving on—it’s about transforming how you love yourself and others, forever. Get it here.