Ending The Year With Grace

Or light a match and burn this mofo

Hi team!

It's the end of 2024... so much has happened...

And my life, like yours, is always filled with both the darkness and the light. The necessary nature of contrast is hard to grasp when we're in the depths of a blackening... and yet, it is only through that, that joy is even possible to feel and understand. I think the greatest challenge is not getting consumed in the quicksand of ourselves… in the depths of the hurting and the longing.

You are not meant to get stuck there. And your soul is not waiting for the fireworks on NYE for you to finally say “YES” to rising. And yet, we wait for those collective moments of expansion, don’t we?! Because we need others. We need all the dimensions of this simulation to work in unison to pick us up by our 3D bootstraps and tell us, “IT’S TIME TO GET YOUR POOP IN A GROUP.”

Let’s be honest… it’s always time. Now. And now. And now. And now.

And now.

Collectively and individually our consciousness has been going through a MASSIVE upgrade. The systems of exploitation on every level are being revealed… and the people we have been taught are here to save us, take care of us, and nourish us, have been monetizing our dysfunction, poisoning us, and hijacking our dopamine pathways…

It’s the ultimate act of rebellion to make yourself healthy. It’s the ultimate act of rebellion to really embody unconditional love, yet lay down some savage boundaries that tell the people in your life and the world… “Not today Satan.” And I don’t mean the word Satan in the traditional religious context (although that works)… I mean it to refer to all the people, habits, and addictions that rob you of the sacred version of you.

There is a voice inside you that wants to burn down the things you built upon the version of yourself you thought people wanted. There’s a match lit, waiting for the green light to burn a motha fucka down.

And sometimes burning is the answer.

But for me, 2024 meant both a quick and slow dismantling. Some of my healing had to brew and marinate. Some of it had to hold me in the darkness longer than I wanted… because, as Francis Weller would say, “The soul dwells in the dark. It lives on the edges.”

2024 lesson: Stop trying to escape the dark.

2025 is not about becoming anything. It’s about revealing. For the religious folks, the word is revelation… for us regular folk, the swagger is about giving the right fucks about the right things. (More on this in next week’s Substack.)

No longer chasing. No longer trying to convince people to change. No longer leaving your soul and body to invade the psychic energy of others. No more leaving your centre.

Your side of the street… for 2025.

This means being a good neighbour. Sure, help clean their yard. Help shovel their walks (thanks Lauren!) Point them in the direction of the book or podcast that may help them… IF THEY ASK. If they’re open.

If not…. mind yo’ fuckin’ business.

2025 is about lighting the torch in your heart and heating and nourishing all that need your warmth… and burning all that doesn’t serve you.

This is not an abandonment of love or others.

This is love.

“The truth shall set you free.”

The truth sets everyone free. We just don’t always like what freedom feels like when we’ve been controlling the thoughts, feelings, emotions and behaviours of others, to try to both keep ourselves perceivably safe and to control the circumstances in our lives.

To control people, you have to become small and constrained. You have to become rigid and unpleasant. I don’t care what your excuse is, freedom and sovereignty are what 2025 is all about.

We don’t always like freedom when it means we’re not powerless. We don’t like it when we have to acknowledge we’ve been playing small so others aren’t afraid of our power. They should be if it means breaking the patterns that bind you both.

Light that torch. Invest in yourself. Follow the pathway that will bring you the tools to bring your gifts to the world.

The world needs you lit the fuck up. Your family needs you burning generational patterns. The world needs more people who are willing to stand alone, together. It needs more brave and courageous souls who will burn the flags of virtue and break free from the cults of ideology.

2024 was a year when collective covert narcissism needed to die… Politically, online, and individually.

To summarize:

2025 is the year of unconditional love, but not unconditional tolerance. It’s the year of giving the right fucks about the right people and the right things. It’s the year we get more analog while communicating in whatever way we need to, digitally. We unhook our nervous systems from social, rewire, regroup, and rejoice.

I’m not here to rise from the ashes. I’m here to swim in them. I’m not looking for ascension, I’m looking for a deeper descent. If one can thrive in the depths of their suffering, nothing can be taken from them.

It seems paradoxical, but when we lose everything, we gain everything.

When we don’t know who we are anymore, we become who we are.

You’re not lost. And you know it.

2025: Let’s fucking go.

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