Codependency is killing your dreams

the fracture that forms when we trade authenticity for belonging.

“Be yourself. Everyone else is already taken.” ~ Oscar Wilde

If you don’t heal codependency, other people will tell you who to be, and you will be that.

Think about how painful that actually is:

You have a dream. You have thoughts and feelings and opinions. You want to stand for what you love… you want to live your mission.

You go tell some close friends, your partner, maybe your parents…

And their first reply is, “HA! You want to do that?! Okay….”

And because of their response, you don’t do it.

This creates a fracture within you — because you prioritize what other people think about you and your dreams, over what you think about you and your dreams…

“What other people think of me is more important than God’s guidance” (or whatever your faith is).

This sacred tension is important… because it’s really the first test to see if you’re actually willing to accept your mission.

It makes sense, in the brilliant design of how the universe works… that the first step to moving towards living our passion is stepping away from people-pleasing and codependency… Because the truth is that if you want to create impact in the world… you’re gonna ruffle feathers. You’re gonna be disliked.

That’s not only okay… it’s expected. BUT, if your nervous system still can’t tolerate people judging or not liking you, your creative expression will always be limited by the imagined and real responses of those around you.

aka. a stranger who you don’t even know (who’s probably a bot) exploits your codependency and gets you to get back in line.

CAN WE GET A FUCCCCCK THAT?!

When are you gonna get mad that other people have more power over who you are than you do?!

When are you going to get mad that the fear of what people think about your mission is more important than what you think!?

And if both of those questions don’t get you mad enough…

How does it make you feel knowing that you place what other people think about your intuitive guidance over what your inner being communicates to you?

aka… (because that might sound too woo) — Your soul is speaking to you, and you prioritize what fucking Peter thinks over your own heart.

HELLLLLLLL NO.

Wonder why you have anxiety?

Wonder why you’re depressed?

Wonder why you doomscroll instead of creating?

(I don’t).

You know the mission.

You know the way.

You just need to get pissed off enough to break the codependent contracts you’ve signed, rebuild trust with yourself, step towards that dream, and let others have their experience of what you choose…

BUT DON’T YOU DARE TRADE BEING INSPIRED BY YOURSELF TO BE LIKED BY SOMEONE ELSE.

The math doesn’t math because it ain’t fucking worth it.

It’s the reason people are addicted and sad and drink and lie.

Isn’t it wild that in order to make those around us feel content with their lives and not betray their dedication to playing small, we’ll betray our own life purpose?!

NOT TODAY SATAN.

Okay. I’m done ranting… because you get the picture.

Become who you are so your people can find you.

Step into your mission so those who need your medicine can find it.

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